Lauren McEachranRelationship Coach, Attract Love, Relationships, Law Of Attraction, Healthy Relationships

Have you ever heard relationship coach’s and experts tell you to “be yourself” at all times, especially when you are dating?

There are a lot of girls in-particularly who change to suit what the guy likes or don’t speak up when something hurts them about what he has said or done.  This can back fire on you later as I learned myself as well.  It happened to me with an ex and I just wanted to make him happy so I would keep my mouth shut even though he made excuses not to see me because he was working a lot.

It eventually builds up in you and you explode like I did too when we finally were heading away together.  I just started yelling and crying about how we never went away cause he was always working, even though that’s what we were doing at that moment.  So speak up in the beginning and find out what their values and passions are.  Because if they don’t value the relationship, you won’t be in the top priorities.

This is very important and related to the topic as well.  Being yourself also requires you to love who you are as a person.  When the right person comes along, they will fall in love with you for being you.  Then you don’t have to watch what you say or do in case they won’t like it cause they like you for you.  They will also understand or learn to understand why you do certain things or say certain things.  So stay true to your beliefs and values if they are serving you well and it feels good inside to follow them.

Being yourself also doesn’t mean not to change at all, as we all grow, learn and change as we get older.  Especially when we are wanting to learn to be better.

So stay true to yourself and be yourself!

When I was listening to Joe Vitale’s audio The Attractor Factor, he mentions a quicker way to go through all the steps of the attractor factor.  His answer for this is “Be Happy Now”.  He also says sarcastically, that this is a little secret which he doesn’t want to share, but I thought it was important, especially in regard to relationships where we tend to get so stressed out over little things.

If you were to look around you right now & find something to smile about, wouldn’t your life seem beautiful?  The harder you look for things to smile about, the more you will find things to smile about.

This is where I find appreciation comes into it.  Appreciation of everything you have, your family, friends, resources, facilities and even yourself for who you are.  For being kind and generous to others which spreads because others are then inclined to do for others as well.

This can start a chain reaction that not only affects your partner or even potential future partner, but people will enjoy being around you more and you will attract more loving people and things into your life.

Life is beautiful and amazing if you choose now for it to be!

Of all the successful long term relationships that I know of, whether from close friends or from famous people, they all have one thing in common =  Their partner is also their best friend.

So, what does it mean to have a best friend:

Someone you communicate with very well?

Someone you tell all of your hopes and dreams to, as well as someone who supports you during the tough times?

You have similar interests?

Someone who will be there for you no matter what?

Someone who loves you just the way you are?

Someone who will never critisize you or put you down?

Someone you can rely on all the time?

So this got me thinking that if you had a partner who was your best friend, the chances of you staying together long term is very likely.  This is where a relationship means more than just infatuation, more than lust, more than just being addicted to the other person.  This is where the connection really takes place between the two of you.

You feel comfortable talking to them about ANYTHING that is on your mind cause you know that they will understand.  Best friends are someone we can trust, someone who will not judge you or talk negatively about you.  They become one of the most important people in your life and help you to become the person you really want to be.

“From the Emmy nominated series, Song of Songs, comes the feature film – “How Will We Love?“.   This documentary explores romantic love, relationships, and the challenges and rewards of long term commitment”.

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Some important quotes & realizations from the movie include:

“Only 50% of the relationship is based on love, the rest includes:  Shared values & communication – loving, teamwork, give up the need to be right”

“I often see a relationship as a mirror in which we see ourselves & sometimes what we can’t accept in another person, is something we can’t accept within ourselves”

This person in which you are in a relationship with, has come to teach you what it is to love, despite the challenges.

How are you feeling right now?

Did you know that you can create a loving feeling right now if you choose to?

‘Choose to feel loving now ~ to attract more love to you’

Every feeling we create within ourselves is a choice.  But we usually choose that feeling depending on an outside circumstance.  This is usually caused by what other people do or say to create whatever current feeling you are feeling.

You have a variety of feelings for a good reason and they all benefit you in knowing what feels right, and what feels wrong to you as a unique individual.  This then leads on to you understanding yourself better as to what you like and dislike.  In other words, what feels good to you, and what feels wrong.  The main controller of these feelings that you create within yourself everyday, is from your thoughts of what you tell yourself.

A feeling is only brought about after a thought that you have had.  So if you could control your thoughts on being more happy and positive, then you would be able to change your feelings to being more happy and positive too, which will also lead to having more energy.

Fear is at the top of all negative feelings and Love is at the top of all positive feelings.

Some negative feelings can include; blame, jealously, anger, resentment and depression.  Some positive feelings can include; kindness, excitement, hopeful, friendliness and courage.  So whenever you are feeling a particular negative feeling, if you think about it, the end result of that feeling will be fear.  When you are feeling a positive feeling, the end result of that feeling is love.

Our feelings are a strong representation of how we interpret the outside circumstances of our lives from the thoughts that we think.  Majority of your negative feelings around fear are created before the event has even happened.

Most people are brought up to believe and expect the worst of every outcome, to help prevent you from being disappointed.  When really, if you were positive about it in the beginning, things may have worked out in a more positive way.

If you consistently believe that the outcome you are expecting, is going to be positive, then you will naturally create feelings of excitement that it will happen.  Then from believing that the outcome has already happened the way you want it to, you will naturally have happier feelings and thoughts surrounding it.

This is where it gets difficult for many people, as they have trouble holding those positive and happy thoughts before the event takes place.  So this means that the outcome will vary, depending on how long you hold onto those positive thoughts and feelings for.

This concept may be hard for a lot of people to understand, but the universe creates what we want in our lives, in alignment with our thoughts, focus and feelings on that outcome.

This is a quick video that demonstrates this, of how you can change your current reality:

Fast Tube by Casper