Men and women in relationships today forget the significance that flirting has on keeping any relationship alive. So to give you some tips on flirting, you first have to remember that it doesn’t matter what stage of your relationship you are in, or even if you are single, flirting will enhance your overall disposition.
Wikipedia defines Flirting -
as “a common form of social interaction whereby one person obliquely indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another. It can consist of conversation, body language, or brief physical contact. It may be one-sided or reciprocated (encouraged) with intentions of getting to know that person on a higher level”.
I bought an excellent program last year called the Secrets of Flirting With Men. But I was also wondering if it’s much different for how men flirt with women?
Most of us flirt everyday with nearly every person we meet, usually without even realizing it. Talking in a sarcastic fashion is a form of flirting, but the most common one is smiling. Men and women do have similar forms of flirting, it just depends on who is receptive to participating.
Quote from the course The Secrets of Flirting With Men states that – “Flirting is something the best wives do with their husbands; the most sensuous women do with their boyfriends or would-be boyfriends; and it’s something that even grandmothers do in their own way with the ‘little men’ in their lives – they make them feel ten feet tall. Almost every relationship between a man and woman can be enhanced with some form of flirting”.
Flirting is very powerful with creating and keeping relationship chemistry, even after you have found your ideal partner. Flirting involves body language, props (things that you touch) and fun conversation. Most people don’t even realize that they are flirting during a conversation because majority of it happens unconsciously. I’m sure you have jokingly teased the opposite sex with a smile on your face while having the intent of making the other person smile.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to have a relationship with that person, it’s just innocent, fun conversation. When you are interested in someone romantically, then you can turn up the flirting a bit with light touching, leaning in close (especially when you want to accentuate particular words) and holding the glance towards that person for longer periods of time with a smile to show that you genuinely interested in that person.
There are different stages of flirting that varies with different people and personalities as well that can be used in relation to how long you have known the person. First stage or first date flirting can just simply involve eye contact (without staring) and leaning in slightly to be attentive to what the other person is saying. Smiling as often as possible shows that you are happy with what you see and hear. Involve laughing too when appropriate during jokes or playful teasing depending on the situation.
Body language during first stage flirting is more important than conversation by showing that you are interested. So tilt your body in the direction of the other person and pay close attention so you can respond in relation to what they are saying and or doing. Ask questions to show you are listening and are genuinely interested in their conversation.
Girls, to enhance your body language during this first stage or first time flirting make sure you cross your legs and if possible, turn your body in the direction of the guy. You can flick or play with your hair once or twice, inconspicuously play with your jewelery if you are wearing any, and keep a good posture which will show confidence.
Guys, turn your feet and or shoulders slightly towards the girl if possible. Keep a good posture also and don’t hesitate to initiate questions first. Women also enjoy a guys company more if he can make her laugh, so involve a few jokes and they don’t even have to be complicated. A simple one may be like “There is a lot of people out tonight” and it may be very quiet and hardly anyone around.
Flirting is intended to accentuate your femininity or masculinity to the other person. This is where you give someone your full attention and that you are happy that they are with you.
If the other person isn’t interested in reciprocating the flirting, you will know instantly, as they many either turn away, not smile back or avoid eye contact.
For girls to understand the full complexities of flirting, I highly recommend the program which I purchased and benefited most successfully from called The Secrets of Flirting With Men by Mimi Tanner. This website also has a sign-up section where you can receive Mimi’s free emails and newsletters. This alone has helped me to learn so much about men and relationships.
For guys, I found a great program called How To Flirt With Women which is the complete guide to flirting, talking to women, and creating sexual chemistry. It’s called the Flirt Mastery system and includes the basics of what is flirting and how to start a conversation, to then extend into detail about commitment, consistency and seduction.
My next blog will go into more extensive detail about flirting after you have known the person for a longer period of time. This is where you can have a lot more fun about it while feeling more comfortable and confident. So be prepared to vamp it up a bit…
When I was listening to Joe Vitale’s audio The Attractor Factor, he mentions a quicker way to go through all the steps of the attractor factor. His answer for this is “Be Happy Now”. He also says sarcastically, that this is a little secret which he doesn’t want to share, but I thought it was important, especially in regard to relationships where we tend to get so stressed out over little things.
After you have been on a few more dates or if you are already in a relationship and just want to spice it up a little, there are some more techniques you can use to ignite chemistry.
