Lauren McEachranRelationship Coach, Attract Love, Relationships, Law Of Attraction, Healthy Relationships

What do you do when your “ex” calls or you feel like calling your “ex”?

Is it a good idea to stay in contact with an ex?  Would you allow them to be just friends?  Would you date them again?

I’m sure most of us have had an ex at one point or another.  After the process of breaking up, sometimes they come back into our lives or ask if they can remain friends.  There has been a few debates about ex’s and whether to stay in contact with them or not.

In my experience, remaining friends with an ex hasn’t helped me much.  If I did the breaking, then they would try and get back with me even though I said I just wanted to be friends.  If they did the breaking, it hurt too much to spend time with them as I was constantly thinking of how to get them back.  I guess it would work if you were both mutually agreeing not to get back together, but wanted to remain friends to share family (if a child is involved), business activities or interests.

I have found that cutting all ties has worked best for me.  This means getting rid of anything that they gave you during the relationship and even anything that reminds you of them.  This has also needed to be the case because when it comes down to it, we didn’t really have much in common anyway.  So I have learned a lot of lessons from my ex’s about who to date in the future and not to get caught up in infatuation or lust which wears off eventually.  It’s important to have chemistry though for it to work, but not just chemistry alone.  As Dr. John Gray states that “there will need to be compatibility and chemistry”.  He also shares that there are 4 types of Chemistry that are all important to have for a long term relationship.  There is Emotional Chemistry, Mental Chemistry, Physical Chemistry & Soul Chemistry (Soulmate).  I might do the next blog going into more detail about this.

So if you do have “ex” enquiries or concerns, then depending on your situation, you will need to re-evaluate whether you were right for each other in the first place.  Lovetalklounge did some great interviews with a variety of relationship experts about whether or not its good to keep in contact with your ex.  Here are some of the videos:

httpv://youtu.be/vzfxpb87t9I

Is It Healthy To Hang Out With Your Ex – Farhana Dhalla

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=veSACDsy2Os

Is It Healthy To Hang Out With Your Ex – Mali & Joe

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o__ClzgxsTI&feature=related

Is It Healthy To Hang Out With Your Ex – Barry Selby

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gjL2TdXweso&feature=related

Is It Healthy To Hang Out With Your Ex – Liesel Rigsby

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1j0GkERdR-w&feature=related

Is It Healthy To Hang Out With Your Ex – Stephen Garrett