Lauren McEachranRelationship Coach, Attract Love, Relationships, Law Of Attraction, Healthy Relationships

How do you know if someone is the right person for you?

Have you ever thought about who would be the right partner for you?

Well, the best way to look at this, is starting with what you don’t want.  So if you have had a past relationship that didn’t work out and that partner had certain attributes and you know that you don’t want to live with someone like that, then it’s time to work out who you want to live with.

For example, you may look back to a partner who was dishonest and cheating.  So you know that’s what you don’t want, so write that down and make up a list of everything you can think of that you have seen in another relationship or personally experienced.

Then on another page you convert it to what you DO want.  So you write down, they are honest and trustworthy which is the opposite of dishonest and cheating for example and that’s what you focus on.

What do you want in a partner?  Do you want someone romantic?  Supportive? Someone who loves animals?  Loves and wants children? Open-minded to trying to things? Adventurous? Spiritual or religious? Affectionate? Emotionally available?  Loves to Travel?  It may seem like you have a lot that you want in a partner, so don’t be afraid to keep writing down what you want until you are satisfied.

Don’t be too specific or demanding though, like massages me everyday or only goes to outings I like/enjoy or only eats the same foods as I do.   Just remember, you don’t want them to be perfect otherwise life with them would be boring.  Don’t expect him to buy you everything either, as you want to be a little independent also, and maintain a strong sense of your own achievements or goals.

Also, just because you don’t know anyone in a really happy fulfilling relationship, doesn’t mean they don’t exist ~ because they DO!

The universe only knows to give you what you think about, so make sure you are thinking about what you want, not what you don’t want.

This is where you may also notice a pattern with the past relationships that you’ve had and then finally be able to break that pattern.  When I first did this, I realized that my ex boyfriends had a lot in common and that I seemed to be attracted to the same type of guy who wasn’t really what I wanted.  Even if I didn’t realize this fully at the time.

Doing this exercise alone will improve your future relationships drastically as you will be able to notice straight away if someone has a particular attribute that you really don’t want in a partner, without waiting until the heartache.

Attraction shouldn’t be the only thing you are looking for, especially if you want to eventually build up a long term relationship leading to marriage where you will be with them everyday and you want them to be able to keep up with whatever life path you would like for yourself.